How to speak cat

Cats are excellent at hiding how they feel and getting familiar with their body language can help us understand them more clearly. The better we speak cat, the better we can care for them.

Remember every cat is unique and you know your cat best. If you are ever concerned speak to your vet.

Cat body language

It’s best to consider your cat’s body language as a whole to understand how they’re feeling.

In this chapter, we’ll show you how different body language signals work together to indicate what your cat might be telling you.

These visuals provide an overview only and should not be relied upon. Body language can be subtle, complex and fast changing.

  • Relaxed

    Lying down on their side or on their back, exposing their belly, or loaf position with feet tucked in.

  • Curious

    Pointing their body and head towards you.

  • Scared

    Lowering their body close to the ground or arching their back to appear larger.

  • Irritated

    Looking at you directly with tail flicking.

  • Aggressive

    Arched back.

  • Stressed

    Body slightly arched or crouched down with little to no movement.

How to read body language

The differences in your cat’s body language for each emotion can be small and hard to spot. Let’s take a closer look at each part of your cat to help you understand every tail flick and whisker twitch.

Relaxed

Ears

Ears in a neutral position.

Eyes

Oval pupils.

Tail

Tail up.

Muzzle

Soft muzzle, occasionally tongue that’s sticking out (known as ‘blepping’) with neutral whiskers.

Coat

Normal.

Curious

Ears

Ears facing forward or mismatched positioning.

Eyes

Slightly enlarged pupils.

Tail

Tail up or in the shape of a question mark.

Muzzle

Normal or a bit forward.

Coat

Normal.

Scared

Ears

Slightly back or flattened against the head.

Eyes

Very dilated pupils.

Tail

Tail low down or between the legs when very scared.

Muzzle

Tense with whiskers forward or back.

Coat

If only the tail hair is standing on end, this indicates your cat is startled.

Irritated

Ears

Ears swivelling and twitching.

Eyes

Constricted pupils.

Tail

Wagging tail, full or single tip.

Muzzle

Normal or a bit tight.

Coat

Normal.

Aggressive

Ears

Backwards when aggressive due to fear.

Eyes

Constricted pupils.

Tail

Puffed up tail.

Muzzle

Tense with whiskers forward or back.

Coat

Hair standing on end.

Stressed

Ears

Back or flat down against the head.

Eyes

Wide open, dilated pupils, staring at the ground with a glassy look, tense look avoiding eye contact.

Tail

Tail low and close to the body.

Muzzle

Drooling, panting, yawning, excessive swallowing, licking nose/lips, tense muzzle and whiskers back or flat against the face.

Coat

Excessive washing, poorly maintained, hair on end, rippling coat along the spine.

Cat Sounds

Understanding pain

We never want to think of our beloved cats in pain, but it’s important to understand the signs. This chapter will equip you with the tools to understand if your cat is in pain, and how much, so you know when to go to the vet.

Using the Feline Grimace Scale

The Feline Grimace Scale is a fast and easy-to-use tool that can help with pain assessment in cats. Observe your cat awake and undisturbed from a distance for 30 seconds. If your cat is grooming, sleeping, playing or eating wait until they have finished before scoring.

The Feline Grimace Scale has 5 action units (ear position, eye tightening, muzzle tension, whiskers change and head position) that can be scored from 0 to 2. The maximum possible score is 10. A total score of 4 or above suggests your cat is likely to be in pain, consult your vet if this is the case.

Click the option that is most similar to the cat’s appearance to create your score.

Rate each action unit from 0 to 2

1/5

Ear Position

0 = Action is absent
1 = Moderately present or uncertain
2 = Obvious appearance of action

Your score breakdown

  • Ears 0
  • Eyes 0
  • Muzzle 0
  • Whiskers 0
  • Head 0

Your score: 0 point(s)

Source: © Université de Montréal 2019, Feline Grimace Scale | Easy Acute Pain Assessment in Cats

Interacting with your cat

You know your cat best and every cat is different. Here are some top tips to bear in mind when approaching your cat.

Cats like greetings on their own terms so it’s always best to let them approach you first. Approaching them in the right way helps them feel safe, respected, and ready to interact.

  • Keep your body relaxed and non-threatening rather than looming over them.
  • Let your cat make the first move, this gives them choice and control.
  • Your cat rubbing against you, or lying belly up
doesn’t always mean they want to be petted.
  • Offer a gentle stroke on the top of the head.
  • Keep the interaction short at first to avoid overwhelming your cat.
  • Move smoothly and avoid sudden gestures that could startle them.
  • Use a calm, soft voice.

How to know when to stop handling your cat

Understanding where our cats are on the ‘Feline ladder of aggression’ can help us know when we need to give them space or remove the stimulus that’s causing the aggression.

Feline Ladder of Aggression

Source: © Sally J Foote DVM 2017 - YouTube

How to manage aggression in your cat

Cats are wonderfully complex, and sometimes their behaviour doesn’t fit neatly with our human routines. Scratching, pouncing, or even showing aggression isn’t about being “bad” it’s how cats communicate their needs.

This chapter will help you understand why cats may act this way and how you can respond with kindness and confidence.

What helps:

  • Your cat loves routine! Keeping their world steady and predictable gives your cat a sense of control.
  • Offer choices like scratching posts, play, or hiding spots.

  • Most of the time your cat’s behaviour is completely natural, even if it doesn’t suit our routines. 

  • Sometimes aggression is linked to pain or illness, it’s always best to rule this out with your vet first.

What doesn’t help:

  • Cats don’t understand it. So punishment only increases 
stress and damages trust.
  • Behaviour changes can be early signs of stress or illness, don’t overlook them.
What’s happening Why it’s happening What helps
Jumping on the kitchen counter  Cats feel safer up high, where they can see their “territory”. Sometimes they’ve also found food rewards there before.  Offer higher, more attractive perches (cat trees, shelves). Avoid feeding from counters so the habit doesn’t stick. 
Scratching the doormat when you come home  Seeing you arrive is exciting! Scratching is a way to release that burst of energy and stress, and to leave their scent.  Place a scratching post or mat near the door. Try different textures (vertical or horizontal) to match their preference. 
Scratching the sofa  Scratching leaves scent marks that make furniture feel safe, but the scent doesn’t last long. New furniture or visitors on existing sofas can smell strange to your cat so they’re more likely to scratch Put a scratching post right next to the sofa and reward its use. A blanket with your cat’s scent can also help after visitors leave. 
Attacking legs or feet  Often this is “play aggression” a sign your cat needs more opportunities to stalk, chase, and pounce Increase daily play with toys that mimic hunting (wand toys, treat chasers, food puzzles). 
Growling, hissing, or swiping at people or other pets  This can be fear, stress, pain, or a sign of conflict with another animal.  Sometimes aggression is linked to pain or illness, it’s always best to rule this out with your vet first.